This happens in the Muslim community
In recent years there have appeared new fatwas that is all about eroticism and marriage. A kind of marriage considered as a renewal of Islamic theology and law, which was not practiced before. One of these types are «misfar», ie travel-marriage. It is a type of marriage where the man who has money can fund a wife’s life by giving her gifts and money. and can live with her when he travels to the country she lives in. This appeared first in Egypt, when the poor women and families in Egypt needed income to live on. Rich oilsheiks and men from the Gulf countries who had the money, traveled to Egypt and married a wife on hold.
Marriages takes place in the travel period. He marries her for a short time. The condition is that you are traveling. Many men from Denmark and Sweden travel to Oslo, and then spend time with her according to travel marriage Misfar legitimized according to the fatwa. They spend “travel stay” with a lady who lives in Oslo. She lives on social wellfare and housing from the municipality. The man comes to the woman, marries her and pays her for the marriage. And travel back afterwards.
Then the marriage is terminated.
This type of marriage is difficult to find sources for in Islam. The motive behind such a fatwa is to increase the man’s privileges in relation to women, male culture rooted in the muslim environment that began to change because of knowledge, human culture and women’s equality.
In Norway, these fatwas began the practice as a revenue agent. This phenomenon affects normally the arab countries. But I’m talking about Norway because I live here:
I had a conversation with a woman who practices this type of marriage. She has a philosophy and reasons why she is convinced. She says:
«I have full right to satisfy my desires. I am divorced for many years. »
I asked to meet some of the women who practice these fatwas. Some of them agreed to meet me. But before the agreed time they backed off and apologized because they knew that I am an author and will write about it.
One of them dared to argue with me and saw me as a challenge. I asked her:
How many times have you practiced this type of marriage?
«Many times with Arab men from different countries: Iraq, Syria, Palestine, etc. When the requirements for marriage are met: He is a Muslim and on the road. And he pays well. »
What do you feel when you are with someone new every month or every other month?
«You defend Western culture. Right? In the west women practice loose relationships, perhaps every day the woman have a new man. Without rules. But we get married according to religious fatwa from muslim scholars. We do not practice whoredoms what norwegian women do We are virtuous women. This type of marriage is legitimate under heaven shari’a and the scholars have given permission. I also have every right to sexual pleasure. »
No one deprives you of this right. But you take money from this marriage?
«Yes, and this is my right.»
But you both enjoyed the sex, – you and your husband. Taking money from this, is prostitution.
«You talk about what you do not have any knowledge of. Qur’anic verse is clear. We do not do what violates God’s shari’a. »
- Which verse legitimizes prostitution?
She recited a verse from the Quran:
For the joy they give you, it is incumbent upon you to give them what they are applicable. Beyond this, there is no injustice in mutual agreement. God knows, is wise .. It’s in the Koran, 4 Chapter Annisaa (women)
She told me that many arab men from scandinavian countries are traveling to Norway to practice the journey of marriage. Pretext is that they are traveling and then have the right to practice this according to the fatwa. Although the goal is to marry for a period against a certain amount of money.
In reality, this is disguised prostitution. Nevertheless, I find most of these women very religious, hijab-clad and refuses to shake hands with men.
If Islam permits this kind of marriage. Why are they ashamed to speak publicly about this?
She replied with confidence:
«I dont know. Maybe this has economic reasons wich have something to do with tax return and tax payment, for all those women are receiving social assistance. »
Perhaps they are aware that this is «legitimised prostitution.» It is my view on this practice.
Here we must stop and think: If women are practicing this in our arab world because of financial shortages, women in Scandinavia gets enough social aid. It gives the woman a roof over their head and bread that preserves a woman’s dignity
When I sat on the train on the way home, I heard two women talking. They were five or six women. I was able to separate their dialect. They were from Syria and Iraq. The conversation was about the same topic: travel marriage – Misfar.
I was reading a book I had with me. I pretended I was busy reading, but I I listened to their conversation , while my eyes were fixed in the book I pretended I was reading.
One of them asked the other:
«How was the guyI sent to you?»
«He did not pay well, and was stingy.» Replied the other.
Then she said again: «Leave him! I will send another one that pays better. »
I did not see the faces of the women, because I would not grab their attention and would not show that I understood arabic.
The woman has the right to satisfy themselves sexually, just like the men. If society refuses to give her this right, she nonetheless have this right. But the problem is the abuse of religion to interfere in the economic interests.The west, liberated from sex-complex social rules that gave permissions to loveaffairs, has not used religion to take responsibility for social change.The west passed laws that protected both the woman and the man for the consequences of sexual intercourse, especially when it comes to children. While in the Islamic society and in Iran recently declared by Ayatollah Hashemi Bahramani that there are a quarter of a million children born of this kind of marriage. A type of marriage that aims to enjoy sex and may be limited for a certain period of time: An hour or two days or any period.
In many Arab countries, we hear that newborn children are thrown on the rubbish heap or at the hospital entrance and social centers threshold. These are criminal acts of religion and should not be accepted.
- Palestinian-Lebanese novelist, writer, journalist. Norwegian citizen.